Friday, 23 June 2017

One call changed my outlook

 Hi beautiful readers!

On this last Friday and Jumuah of the Ramadaan, I feel especially blessed, I am filled with a sense of wonder at how Allah (SWT) brings to you exactly what is needed. This has been a month like no other Ramadaan, the bubble of introspection and supplication in our home has meant that we have not ventured to go anywhere, except for hubby's birthday last week. Even the kids have stayed in (I suppose also because it was exams) and felt no need to step out. I have had the most amazing things happen this month and the most profound experiences, all engineered by Divine intervention.

This week one phone call catapulted me into such a profound space, which I instinctively felt I have been preparing for all month. Unknown, I had been preparing for the invitation which every Muslim yearns for, the invitation to perform pilgrimage and visit the Holy lands. And this after I had accepted that it would possibly only happen next year, and I was content to wait my turn. I spent the first day in a daze, and sprang into action by day 2 since I literally only have a month before I leave. By nature I am usually well prepared and usually have all my travel arrangements sorted ages before I leave. 
This time though, I don't have that luxury, the trip is not one where I am able to determine my flight dates, airlines, mode of transfer from the airport and so on. And yet, I am comfortable to take my pick from options presented by my travel agent, trusting that what must be must be. 

This is unusual for me, and yet so liberating. I don't feel stressed that the hotel won't be as I expect, or worried about the flight (I do NOT like flying!!) or even concerned about the Saudi heat. My focus has shifted to ensuring my kids and home are taken care of. My priority is to cultivate my spiritual being, ensuring it is open, clear, uncluttered and able to make the most of the journey, the experience and connecting with my Creator. I am constantly filled with the greatest feeling of awe and gratitude. 

Today's post is therefore a celebration of our beautiful city, which I will leave behind, the stunning back drop of Table Mountain a perfect example of the beauty of God's (Allah SWT) creations. It was super chilly, but there's nothing like the smell of the sea, and the sun on my face to feel grounded and part of the universe. 
The outfit features a ZARA dress worn as a top, skinny jeans and comfy platform brogues.





Outfit details:
ZARA dress
Guess jeans
Dune London brogues
Precious Rose scarf
Rebecca Minkhoff bag
Giorgio Armani sunglasses
Stance sequin socks
Honey earrings
Crystal Paradise pearl necklace
Chanel lips

Caio for now, 
RuBe xoxo

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Friday, 16 June 2017

A birthday wish for my life champion...

Hello again lovelies!

Today's post is a special one, dedicated to the rock in my life, my constant, my best friend and partner - the hubby. The one who treks to all locations to take my photos, who never complains when I have to work late, and will offer his assistance at a the drop of a hat.

Most of my posts centre around my role as a homemaker and wife, the trials we face as mothers and nurturers and the tribulations we face whilst trying to be the best role models we can be. Today my other half celebrates his born day, a day to be celebrated, a day for me to give thanks that he has been placed here for me. I feel as if we have a bond that transcends the years we have been together, a bond that was formed long before I even knew him. A bond that was destined to be fulfilled on my path in life, to help the other fly. We have been through many ups, a couple of lows, some trying times and we have been able to forge a new path forward each time. Strengthening ourselves and our family along the way.

I firmly believe that everything has been ordained for us, so everything we experience, the good and the bad, has been gifted to us for a greater purpose. I trust in that, and will weather what I need to and will endure my trials with grace. And at every corner my partner has been there to cheer me on, to remind me that this too shall pass or to just hold me while the tears flowed. Every minute of our lives together has been an adventure, we cherish experiences and memories and have banked so many,  I am eternally grateful for every single moment. I am thankful that you walk this earth by my side. Algamdulilah 🙏

My dear husband, 
Time passes by so swiftly that I want to freeze frame some moments, 
The moments where we're laughing until our sides hurt, 
The moments when our hearts fill with love at a little token from the boys.
I am forever grateful for what we have, 
I am forever grateful for our blessings, 
As I am for our trials. 
Life with you is a gift to my healing heart, 
It is a panacea for my traumas, 
And has helped me become whole.
Your unending well of love
has touched all of us, 
Your kind heart,
is an example to model.
May your born day be special, may you feel the everlasting love surround you.
May the day bring you joy, a lightness and the knowledge that you are special.
And may we spend many more together, in search of new adventures,
forging new paths, with exuberance and purpose. 
All my love, 
ME 💖 

This lookpost is more about the beautiful  morning we spent at Rhodes Memorial, while the sun was not yet high in the sky, the fog a heavy blanket over the city. These moments are priceless, and I cherish them deeply.
The outfit features all my old favourites from past seasons put together for a comfortable look. Representative of life with my hubby, all the bits and memories in the tapestry of life have come together to form a beautiful life.

Outfit details:

Hse of Bespoke suede fringe dress/top 
A Sense of Style sequin long cardi
Guess jeans
Adidas sneakers
YSL bag (purchased abroad)
Feather earrings old
Scarf old
Giorgio Armani sunglasses

Ciao for now, 
RuBe xoxo

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Friday, 9 June 2017

A tumultuous time

Hello again readers!

We are into the second 10 days of this month and shoo it has been a tumultuous one! There have been so many occurrences this week which have tested me on a few fronts. The #CapeStorm has caused devastation for so many, and families are still reeling from their losses. I have already attended 3 funerals during this month, two of them this week alone, and the first one on the very first day of the fast. That first funeral seriously set the tone for the rest of the month🙏🏼

Even though this was a rough week, it has also been an amazing one in terms of what I had come to accept and things I needed to embrace. The funerals this month were especially hard as they each represented elements of my childhood which needed closure. Things which had been worked through, understood and processed and just needed a final closing off (so to speak). I have had to sit with mixed emotions after the second funeral, having to deal with a loss which I didn't think would affect me - which hit hard.

It became evident that there are times when a death will impact me for a reason other than the loss of that person, it signifies a void or an ending. It brings with it realisations of how a single person can impact others without even knowing. Life has a strange way of intertwining lives, and sometimes a few words or a presence (and even an absence) can mean so much to another. We are all on our own journeys and do not necessarily know the struggles of others, and by just saying hi, stopping to offer a lift, or smiling at someone, we may bring a little bit of sunshine. 

This month has been an intense one, where all my self-evaluation and supplication have highlighted that there will always be places of myself that will require work. I will constantly be in a state of growing and learning, evaluating, all towards being a better me. For me. And to be able to lead and guide, as well as to serve. As always, this Ramadaan has been a hugely productive one business wise, and plans which have been laid down earlier this year are coming to fruition now. Algamdulilah.
I am grateful for the trials set upon on my path as it teaches me to grow, forcing me to tap into those places inside me which houses the strength. 

"Hard times don't create heros.

It is during the hard times when the hero within us is revealed." 

- Bob Riley

Today's outfit is an ode to the bit of childhood I had to let go of this week. It signifies the playfulness we have inside and sense of wonder which I hope to never lose.

Outfit details:
Superbalist suede jacket (last year)
H&M t-shirt dress
Gold belt (old)
Country Road leggings
Mango boots (
Scarf purchased abroad
French Connection bag (UK)
Embellished sunglasses from The Glam Closet

Ciao for now, 
RuBe xoxo

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