Friday, 12 February 2016

Coping with the hectic schedule

Hello readers,
It’s astounding the amount of people I have chatted to in various situations who say that the pace of 2016 is already insane. It seems as if this year is a very significant one for many people, or it may just be that the universe has placed me in the company of like minded busy people. Whatever the reason, I take comfort in the fact that I am not the only one who seems to be living at an accelerated pace. As a wife, mother and entrepeneur, I face each challenge head on and proceed at the new level of hectic. 

As a woman, trying to fill various roles, and trying to do everything with excellence, it naturally means that at the end of the day, one feels completely weary. There are always unexpected, unplanned incidences - like a sick child, a home emergency where something breaks down, a school event that happens at short notice, an urgent meeting and so the list continues. I regularly advocate taking time out for recuperation, whether it is a spa treatment, a weekend away or just a catch up coffee with a friend. However, I have realised that unless these times are actually planned and scheduled they do not happen. Life will continue on its insane rhythm and one needs to be vigilant of how quickly the week passes by, or the month passes by and the opportunity for downtime has been lost. 
In an attempt to ensure that I have that me time (read sanity time), I schedule my week. 
Here are some ways to do this and how I try to adhere to it:
  1. Buy a calendar/ planner (with various columns for each person in the home) and put it in a visible place, so that everyone is aware of what is happening and when.
  2. All daily activities for the kids (and yourself) are pre populated in their respective column at the beginning of every month. At the same time, they are put in my electronic diary (phone and laptop).
  3. I then decide which day of the week will be appropriate for a morning (or at least 3 hours) off.
  4. This personal time is blocked out each week (or however often you are able to fit it in) for the entire month… (subject to change due to unavoidable emergencies such as illness, last minute school commitments etc).
  5. My week is usually planned during the prior week, where meetings are scheduled, class and assignment time, admin time and even errand time is planned out. My days are theme specific ie, specific days for meetings, and admin and assigments.
  6. If my personal time is to have a coffee date, girls catch up or spa appointment, I confirm these times a week ahead of time, to ensure this time is not absorbed elsewhere.
  7. My meals are loosely planned at the beginning of each week, and even cooking times- my sons tend to finish really late in the evenings and I have driving commitments all afternoon. 
  8. I start my day with yoga and meditation to prepare me for the hectic day followed by an update on financial markets and world news to get the brain functioning.
  9. As mentioned in last weeks post, my social media (read time thief) times are set, and planned so they do not interfere with family time.
This may seem restrictive, but the reality is that unless it is a work meeting, client or class that cannot be rescheduled - everything else is merely a guideline. There are some negotiables and others will be non- negotiables. This depends on family circumstances and the availability of time.

I wish all those crazed mums good luck coping with the madness of life!

Today’s lookpost was one shot on a day where I had chosen to have a girly catch up. All of us are extremely busy and even though our time was limited, it was a refreshing break in the middle of a day filled with obligations.
In the current heat dresses are the perfect piece to make me feel less layered and bothered. This dress is an archive piece, from ZARA about 3/4 years ago but a firm favourite for those scorchers.















Outfit details:
ZARA dress and Sandals
Witchery scarf
Ted Baker bag 
Vogue sunglasses
Gifted neckpiece
Tiffany & co bracelets


Caio for now, 
RuBe xoxo



















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Friday, 5 February 2016

Choose Casually

Happy Friday Folks

Another week dusted, another week to be grateful for. 
I look back at this week, and feel really blessed for moments I have spent with my family. I choose to focus on the little moments here and there; my family is just as busy as I am and so we have to savour the interactions we have with each other. In today's fast paced life it is really important to be present as it is so easy to lose an hour by scanning social media, watching an unimportant rerun on TV or obsessing over unnecessary things. 

I am not bashing social media, in fact it is integral to what I do, however, I do plan my times on social media very carefully. I have three daily slots, which will not affect my family, when I will post, read and catch up. If I've missed something, that's just unfortunate. I choose when I watch TV, and try to remain true to my priorities.
I choose to focus on the positive aspects, I choose my attitude, my responses and where I want to go. I believe that if I concentrate on the fact that I choose to be busy, to be chauffeur, to spend hours in meetings and class; that I will be happier with the way my days have gone. There are many instances where we cannot choose, such as death, illness and accidents but we can choose how we react and how we allow it to impact our lives.
This week I shared a quote:
" I am not what has happened to me, 
I am what I choose to become  "
- Carl Jung
It is so powerful and profound, that it struck a chord within me and made me realise that that's what I have been concentrating on for the longest time. 
I choose my circumstances.
We choose the good and We choose the bad. 
Once we realise this, we take responsibility and accountability for our own lives. We set excellent examples to our kids, who will undoubtedly model our behaviour. 
While I do believe that things happen as they are meant to, as humans we have also been given choice. It is what sets us apart from animals.
I urge readers to reflect on the past week, and evaluate your choices. If a situation turned bad, be critical, and determine whether a different choice could have changed the outcome. 
Once we become conscious of our decisions, we readily accept the consequences. 
Today's casual look is representative of how we need to relax, even when times are insane- make a choice, a decision to find that space of tranquillity. 
I've chosen to pair a lightweight denim shirt with a fun printed pants, pulled together with Stan Smith sneakers for that totally chilled look.


















My outfit:
Levis denim shirt from Spree
Legit printed pants
Stan Smith Adidas sneakers
Ralph Lauren sunglasses from Sunglass Hut (Bali)
Rebecca Minkhoff bag

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Tuesday, 2 February 2016

All Female Outdoor Cinema Experience - Ticket GIVEAWAY


GIVEAWAY NOW CLOSED.


WINNER: 

Charlotte Coetzee..
Please contact me to arrange delivery of your tickets.
rushda@rubescloset.com 


Hi beauties!

On Saturday I was treated to an enjoyable brunch to launch the All Female Outdoor Cinema experience. It promises to be an evening of fun, a ladies night out and time to let the hair down, so to speak.



And if you’re anything like me, then you would be so excited to hear that the movie they will be screening is Grease! With the gorgeous summer weather we’ve been having, what better way to spend an evening than outdoors watching an old classic movie under the stars?




Sisters in Support, a charitable collaboration between Little Big Event Planners and Sisters in Hijab have decided to host this charitable event. The proceeds will be donated to “Little Angels”, a Somerset West based NGO which cares for children with disabilities. The children have various incapacities and  range in ages from little babies to young adults. 

Ladies only 
13 February 2016, 19h00 
at the Islamia College Sports Field

Tickets are currently on sale, and tomorrow they will offer a Wacky Wednesday offer on their website where tickets will be discounted. So if you’re waiting for the right time to buy tickets tomorrow would be it.

Prices as follows:
Option 1 : Ticket only - R120
Option 2 : Ticket, Popcorn & 500ml beverage - R160
Option 3 : Ticket, Popcorn & 500ml beverage & 65g Whispers - R175



I will be unable to be there due to a family commitment, but I have decided to gift one lucky reader with two tickets (option 1) to the event. Snacks will be on sale, bring along your blanket and pillow to ensure maximum comfort.

Follow the steps below to enter:
1. Like my FaceBook page here
2. Share the event/ my post regarding the event on FaceBook 
3. Comment below that you have done the above.
4. Competition will close Monday 8th February 2016 at 5pm.
Good Luck!




Sponsors:

Precious Rose
Few and Far Collections SA
Minimal Exposure
Chroma Creative
Ashiqah G


Caio for now, 
RuBe xoxo


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