Friday, 9 December 2016

Holiday fever

 Holidays are here! 
And with it the balmy days, evening swims and the smell of braai wafting around. It signals downtime in my home, when mommy duties can relax. I don't have to police bedtime, remember crazy schedules, check homework and plan lunch box snacks. I love it, and I fully intend to revel in my downtime, without sweating the small stuff.

While this week has brought the school holidays, for my matric son it started a while ago. And I have to dig deep to be ok with him being out with friends who have access to their own cars. He doesn't need me to plan his outings, drive to and fro and merely sends me updates on where he is, and when he'll be home. During the past two weeks our dinner table has been significantly empty, with the teenagers out and about. I now have to check who will be home for dinner so that I cook for fewer people. It makes me want to hold onto the youngest a little tighter in the hopes that I can delay the inevitable growing distance between mom and babe.

There have been so much going on that I didn't fully comprehend that the year has flown by; in the blink of an eye I am back to feeling exhausted and totally ready for a break. I can clearly remember last year this time, deciding to take my annual break from blogging, mom's taxi duties, personal chef and, of late, the designated cleaning lady! But reflecting on what this year has brought me, and what has transpired, I feel like a completely new person. 

I have learnt to accept my traumas as a factor of my growth.
I have learnt to accept myself, weaknesses and all.
I have grown so much in terms of academic knowledge, and also
in terms of coming to terms with who I am and who I want to be.
I have learnt to listen to my body, and 
have successfully managed to avoid kidney infections (which I suffer with chronically) and other illnesses.
I am grateful for a supportive and loving family, 
for a husband who is there when I need him and 
supports and loves me unconditionally. 

I have learnt that I will constantly be growing and therefore life will always be hectic, I have come to terms with constantly evolving and working on being a better version of myself.  

Today's outfit is to invite the holiday mode into my style choices...
I have paired a loose t-shirt silk dress, with leggings, flat sandals and a loosely wrapped scarf.
Light and airy for Summer!


























Outfit details:
Cheryl Arthur dress from Spree (shop similar here)
Forever 21 leggings
Old Khaki Scarf (shop similar here)
Dune London embellished sandals
Accessorise necklace
Sunglasses from Zulululu

Caio fro now, 
RuBe xoxo

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Friday, 2 December 2016

The Power of Black


 Hello beauties!

and...

A warm welcome to December!

And just like that (!) we have reached the last month of the year, and so the year slowly descends into the best feeling of sun, surf, family and fun. I always love this time of year, with it's longer days, the lack of extra murals to drive to and the simplicity with which I handle each day. By this time of the year, I no longer have the energy to sustain my control freak and find a wonderful sense of freedom without it. After a crazy year, I don't have to work at keeping that control freak under control (and yes it takes work)... as it usually just happens with my energy reserves pretty tapped out by December (without even trying). 

Throughout the year I attempt to take some time out to recharge my energy reserves; at times I am successful, and at other times I fail miserably... at times working 8 days straight and then collapsing into a heap of exhaustion. And while this happens, mommy life continues at its usual frenetic pace. I feel as if my kids are growing at a scary rate and this year particularly there have been real big developments. I still feel as if I am catching up- although I doubt my heart ever will!

It is therefore no shock that of late I have been drawn to the colour black, and while it is a summer trend, it also gives protection from external emotional stress (according to some schools of colour psychology). As much as I love wearing the colour black, I will always lift and brighten it with a bright pop. Too much black can often be too depressive and foster a negative environment. It is usually associated with grieving and the unknown, and yet, because black is associated with the end (of something) it also signifies new beginnings. 

Black also absorbs negative energy and it is useful to carry something black with you to protect you from harm and negativity when traveling or when going about your usual daily activities outside your home. I find black to be soothing (while also being very slimming ☺☺) and I am drawn to my black hematite bracelets on most days when I need an extra boost of emotional energy.  It is said that black crystals bring power, protection and security. However, I also feel so sophisticated, strong and empowered when wearing this colour. It usually signals a particular mood, when I am more focussed and ready to tackle any challenge.

This OOTD shows a black outfit against the beautiful backdrop of the beautiful Atlantic Seaboard. I paired A Sense of Style ruched skirt with a Michelle Ludek laser cut boxy top with sneakers. This outfit was perfect for a relaxing interlude enjoying the salty sea air. Its another way for me to unwind, recharge and enjoy our beautiful city.

With December upon us, we need to enjoy our beaches before the tourists arrive en mass...



















Outfit:
Michelle Ludek top (old)
A Sense of Style ruched skirt
Nike ZA sneakers
Chanel bag (purchased abroad)
Twist snapback from Asos
Zulululu sunglasses
 ZibaStyles neckpiece (old)
Various bracelets including black hematite 

Caio for now, 
RuBe xoxo

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Friday, 25 November 2016

Black Friday musings

TGIF Readers, 

As we near the end of the year,  it feels as if time has been sped up. Everything seems to move super fast, and with today being "Black Friday", the only thing that moved excruciatingly slow was the traffic... all around! I was not planning on finding myself in the shopping centers today, but due to the traffic mayhem caused, I was held hostage at a shopping center waiting for the traffic situation to subside.

I am usually pretty keen on a bargain, but I draw the line at queueing, pushing and fighting for it. I do not enjoy the hoards of people in a race to buy goods which are not really discounted by that much, I may indulge in an online sale, and only if the discount is significant- which wasn't the case at all this year.
So instead, this year I found myself wondering where the throngs of people came from, shopping up a storm like there is no tomorrow. The air was filled with a frantic energy, and I couldn't help but wonder if all the 'bargains' were in fact worth the headache. I wandered through stores, and would walk in, and leave immediately when faced with shoppers pulling things off shelves in a frenzy, waiting at the fitting rooms to try on clothes and standing in endless queues to pay for groceries. 
My cellphone kept beeping with retailers reminding me that it was 'Black Friday', emails flying around declaring huge discounts; and it dawned on me that this time of year is not only characterized with a manic need to wrap up business, but it is also a time when we are predisposed to spending without thought. The idea that a particular item is just so well priced, that it's hard to resist, whether we need it or not. This leads to buyers remorse, or at the worst unworn pieces of clothing which linger around in the wardrobe. 
This is a time when the emotion of year end, with the holiday spirit upon us and good will loosening the purse strings. We tend to feel that after a year of hard toil, that we deserve to be spoilt with that little bauble, item of clothing, or electronic device. As I sat and watched shoppers today, with my phone reminding me incessantly of the limited time to enjoy the bargains- all I could hope for shoppers to put a little bit of thought into buying these 'low-priced' items. A little bit of consideration of the actual need before parting with the hard earned cash. Before filling up the wardrobe with impulse purchases, consider how it will fit into the wardrobe, whether it complement the wardrobe and whether it qualifies as an investment piece or merely fleeting trend. 
So be mindful out there... it seems some retailers have decided to extend Black Friday to Black Friday weekends!!

My outift post today features all pieces which were purchased on sale, where they actually more than 50% off. Apart from the sunglasses and shoes, each piece was bought on sale, but purchased mindful of how it will transcend seasons and be able to integrate into my wardrobe for work and leisure. The shoes have been in my wardrobe for more than 5 years, so it was really an investment piece. The crisp boyfriend shirt was purchased on winter sale and the jeans and handbag have also been in my wardrobe for a while. 













Outfit details:
Ralph Lauren Polo shirt
Polka dot jeans (old)
Scarf (old)
Accessorize clutch bag (old)
Country Road wedge heels (old)
Honey beaded necklace
Armani sunglasses from Sunglass Hut
Ciao for now,
RuBe xoxo
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