Friday, 19 January 2018

Starting 2018 with a bang!

 Welcome lovely readers!

I hope your 2018 started on the right footing, for many this has been the first week back at work. For me, the second, and this week already started off on a terrifying note. I realise that at every turn I will be faced with the opportunity to reinforce my faith, and practice acceptance of what has been decreed with Grace. For this I am grateful, as hard as it is to be in the midst of trauma, it is also the best vehicle for personal growth and to exercise strength.

I am not one for new years resolutions, and each year is merely a continuation of the work and growth of the previous year. 2017 literally kicked my a**, but it also held the most profound experiences of my entire life! There are no coincidences, and I believe 100% that without experiencing those difficulties, I would not have been in the same space, where I was able to absorb and soak up every single ounce of 'profoundness'. And so I aim to go about this year open to new experiences, open to lessons (some which have already landed this year!) and being conscious of serving with an open heart.

I started 2018 very serenely, on holiday at our annual Pine Lake Marina retreat. For a week I felt like I had carved out a little bubble in which only my sister, our hubbys and kids existed. My two older ones decided to remain in Cape Town, alone at home 😲 (which was tough for me, but  part of the letting go process) and my youngest was occupied with a host of friends his own age on the resort. This essentially meant that I had lots of time to rejuvenate, reflect and enjoy my tranquil surroundings. I enabled me to focus on what was important and to just be.

We started high school and matric this week, and my eldest will be embarking on his second year at university. I can already see the challenges that comes with 'parenting' an almost 20 year old. A young adult, who is now able to drive, manages his own schedule, and admin. How does one balance parenting with letting the reins go (almost completely)? Last year was the start of my journey of letting go, which was difficult, and the next phase doesn't seem too appear easy either. This year my youngest also enters a new chapter of teen life, another step into his own identity... I just pray for wisdom and grace in dealing with all the parenting challenges I know will crop up this year (some of which have already reared it's head in the few weeks of 2018!). 🙏🏼

My lookpost today encapsulates 2017, in all its wonder, pain, blessings and intense work. It was year like no other, a year of the most remarkable blessings... hence today's outfit is the perfect representation, glamourous, modest and unique. It was an outfit I had made by Mishah Designerwear, specially as my Hajji outfit for a family wedding. So it is a very special piece, symbolising my most spectacular pilgrimage... I think this is evident by just looking at it. So beautifully made and radiating elegance. Thank you Mishah! ♥️

Outfit details:
Mishah embellished dress & scarf
Embellished underscarf from Meccah 
Zara shoes
Accessorise bag
Earrings old 

Caio for now,
RuBe xoxo

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Friday, 15 December 2017

Year end reflections

Hi beautiful readers!

Reflecting on this past year literally has my mind spinning! It has been the most phenomenal, life changing and, not co-incidentally, also the year I turned 40 😊 

I had heard many people say "Life begins at 40" ... and since I could not relate, it was just a phrase. Until this year hit me with it's hectic challenges, trials which made me look at myself in a whole new light, shifts in relationships and so much more. While I wouldn't say that life 'started' at 40; for me it certainly took a fundamental shift. 
I have had to let go of my (not so secret) control freak, who dictated that life had a plan, and an outcome determined by me. The biggest lesson I learnt this year is to "Let it go", to live with a purpose, but mindful that I do not control the outcome, nor the plan. It started very early this year, when we returned from our vacation, my eldest was off to university, middle son started Grade 11 and the baby embarked on his last year at primary school. For each one of them I had an idea of how I would 'manage' the year, until I accepted that it would be best for my eldest to find his own path, wherever that would lead him. In retrospect, letting go of the parental reins was the best decision, as he's really embraced his own identity this year, taking full responsibility for his own route. My two younger ones have also stepped into 'bigger' roles this year which is really encouraging to see. And in the same way, in every other aspect of my life, letting go has yielded such amazing circumstances that I cannot even begin to tabulate the blessings it has resulted in.

I have been privileged to have travelled extensively this year, and hold all these memories very close to the heart. A glorious family vacation, and a few months later, the long awaited pilgrimage, a journey which completely transformed my perception of life. I find myself more at peace, although it requires work to maintain my holistic outlook on life. The lessons I embraced on my journey are still fresh and sometimes habit, and old ways of doing things, creep back in. It's astounding how quickly I register when I start falling back into old habits,  that even my body will alert me! So during this year it has become a key lesson for me to listen to every physical reaction or symptom, as it is always indicative of something I need to examine within myself. 

I remember turning 30, and how devastated I was to be saying farewell to my 20's- there was a significant shift for me when I turned 30. Maturing of sorts. Turning 40 on the other hand was like a celebration, of a renewed start and facing the unknown without the need to know. I celebrated this milestone, my 40th year on earth, whilst on pilgrimage and it cemented a steadfast trust in the Divine, an understanding that life will unfold despite me and my plans. Life will happen as it is meant to, and I can make it difficult by trying to manage it, or embrace what has been decreed. It is certainly easier said than done, but it has resulted in a more balanced me, less stress and definitely less conflict! 

"Not once did Allah SWT say 'Worry about it' or 'Stress over it'
He said: 'Trust Me'"

And so todays lookpost was taken on a day when I had hectic deadlines, and was struggling to focus on work. Something inside me was yearning for the smell of the sea, to see the crashing waves and feel the sun on my face (even for just an hour). So I put my work on hold for a bit (something I would never have dreamed of doing before), and took some timeout with hubby on a drive to Kalk Bay. What an absolutely invigorating break midweek with my bestie it was indeed, and completely refocused my energy when I returned to work. I am clearly in work clothes (on the beach hehe), but just letting go for a short while in a week where things were a little crazy work wise, was the best thing to do! Just letting it go 😌


Outfit Details:

Human Image lace blazer
Calvin Klein Jeans t-shirt
Topshop pants
Nine West heels
Scarf old
Sunglasses old
Earrings from Make a Statement
Swarovski necklace purchased in Venice
Ted Baker handbag

Ciao for now, 
RuBe xoxo

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Sunday, 10 December 2017

This is Us...22 years later ❤️

Hello Readers, 

Today is very special, it marks the day I embarked on life with a forever teammate. Celebrating 22 years of partnership, of mutual growth, of learning and ever present support. Two years ago we marked the 20 year milestone, (read that post here) and it feels as if we have weathered another 10 years since then!

It's apt to say weathered, as things have not been easy these past two years for either one of us in our respective individual capacities, and yet it has also brought us the best realisations of ourselves. It has made us both stronger, clear on the way forward and what really matters. And with every personal challenge, you were there for me and I for you. The reciprocal encouragement, a boost for our low times, was paramount to our own personal growth. You give selflessly, take care of me, make me laugh and boost me up when things get a bit much. 
My darling hubby, you are an angel on earth, who has helped me heal, who has challenged me while filling my days with joy and love; standing by my side when things go awry ❤️.

This past year alone has been a whirlwind ride, we have experienced the most life altering journey together, spent 6 weeks alone in a hotel room, and emerged stronger, with a sense of rejuvenation. This #journeyofalifetime has captivated us and ensnared us in its majesty and has resulted in a bond with renewed grace. And while 2017 has been a year filled with intensity, for every single member of our family, we have grown closer with deeper understanding. There have been so many fundamental changes during this year, which started with our family vacation at the beginning of this year. Being away from everything familiar back home, making the most amazing memories, and spending every single day together for 2 weeks, was a catalyst to the extraordinary events of this year.

There is no magic formula to staying together for this amount of time, but I do believe that mutual respect, selfless love and acceptance of our vulnerability has played a huge role for us. I am eternally grateful that we crossed paths, I believe we were meant to be soul mates, bringing out the best in each other, each day ✨

For my life-partner, Ghaalid.,

All of our moments are cherished experiences,
We've travelled side by side on this journey, 
Forever evolving, always changing,
At times being forced to reroute our navigation.
There have been moments of discord,
Moments of disharmony, 
Which ultimately brought us closer,
Helped us grow and move forward on a new path.

We've meandered along this route, 
Welcomed three little angels as passengers,
As co-travellers on our route. 
They have brought new direction, 
Taught us new methods and compelled us to grow.
These little men have brought about a change,
Coerced new views and acceptance of new ways.

And all along, we have held fast to each other,
When we lost our way, 
When we climbed over difficult obstacles,
And when we had to tear down walls enroute.
All along we stayed true to our pact, 
We co-steered to our destination. 
Our route has been filled with the most unimaginable highs,
Joy in creating incredible memories,
Unconditional love in guiding our three little gifts,
Into wholesome young men.

I thank you, my co-pilot, for staying the course with me,
I thank you for making this voyage the most profound it could ever be.
I thank you for trusting me with all of you, 
And for embracing all of me.
Happy Anniversary my love!

Collecting our documents for our #journeyofalifetime was an outstanding moment for us this year
Our three treasures, present day
Roll back to 2010!
Our Euro vacation was the catalyst for a magical year!

Smile big, Laugh often, Never take this life for Granted

Because every picture tells a story :-D

It was one of the hardest things we had to do... leaving these 3 for 7 weeks!

Live simple, Laugh often, Love deeply
Another momentous moment for us this year, after our first Umrah
Our return home was such a joyous event!

Find Your Tribe. Love them Hard.

Happy Anniversary!!!

Caio for now,
RuBe xoxo

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