Friday, 5 August 2016

No time for frenemies

Welcome readers!

Winter is still in full swing, however as I write this, beautiful sunlight is streaming in through my glass doors covering everything in a golden light. It reminds that there is always light and beauty in everything around us, sometimes in the most unexpected places. While recuperating I have recently had a lot of time to think about things, to assess life and how much things have changed. 
In the past year I have made so many changes, to myself and the way I do things and interact. I have realised that there are situations that drain energy unnecessarily, people who demand a lot of energy; and I was done tolerating this pointless waste of my energy and time. It  became clear that in order for me to be the best version of myself, for myself, that it would be necessary to eliminate any drain on my spirit.
The word frenemies started to mean something and it dawned on me that it is important for me to trust my intuition, and when I feel that someone is not being true, not cheering in my corner, or genuinely happy for me, that it would be best to steer clear of them. I do not have the inclination to work at friendships dealing in the currency of resentment and envy, there is no space for this in my world. I am of the opinion that every single person enters your life to teach a lesson, or bring some enlightenment, good or bad. And I have realised that positivity and love is not always reciprocated. Being a supportive and loving friend goes both ways and accepting each other regardless, is integral to sharing genuine connections with people. It was undoubtedly time to move on from situations where I have not been accepted (warts and all) and where mutual understanding and support was nothing but a myth. 
I am done with subtle manipulations and innuendos intended to sting, I am done with giving of myself only to be faced with pretend smiles and compliments. I am happy to embrace real friendships, true connections and unwavering acceptance. 

And the moment I reached the place where I refused to accept anything but authenticity from people, my life was infiltrated by a pack of amazing, authentic, genuine individuals. Those who are able to accept what you offer and reciprocate, those who applaud others' achievements without a twinge of jealousy. These 'angels' appeared when I placed importance on my own authenticity, giving of my best and refusing to waste energy on meaningless encounters.

Today's #OOTD features a leather jacket thrown over a long line sweat, jeans and flat ankle boots. A perfect look for everyday running around. 





















Asos Leather jacket (old)
Longline Disney Mickey Mouse sweat from Uniqlo (Kuala Lumpur)
Gap Jeans
Accessorize scarf
Michael Kors bag
Forever New necklace (old)
Green Cross ankle boots

Caio for now, 
RuBe xoxo